Bhubaneswar: Parents don’t teach their children how to deal with failures. Especially, in today’s time this has been very common that the parents are becoming extra competitive, putting their children to achieve certain things, comparing the children with others and so on.
In the present time, the youth has no absorption power to handle failure and there is no expectation as well to be failed. Becoming steadily the conditioning from childhood has become such that the youngsters don’t want to even talk about failure. The preaching and teaching of positivity has become such a rampant norm that nobody wants to see the flip side , the negative aspects. Whereas it is very much there. One has to be prepared for a plan B, an alternative, as both positive and negative are the reciprocals.
The parents should ingrain the confidence of not knowing in the children. When the idea of knowing everything and being perfect is instilled in a children’s minds it is easy to get vulnerable to various psychological issues in contemporary times. The mindset of “ it’s okay to not know everything” will bring confidence and courage in them to learn new things, ask questions, and prepare for failures.
There is no one who has never seen failure, adversity in life. Struggle, failure, is the law of nature. If there is no negative, there won’t be a positive. There should not be a rule on the child coming first or being on the top always. Irrespective of gender the norm should be of becoming independent in every aspect, financially, emotionally, and spiritually.
Today’s youth is getting detached from spirituality because the environment at home is not created the way it should be for making the children inclined to devotion, meditation, prayers etc. Here the lacuna remains with the parents first as the generation now always quests for logic. If we understand, explain to them the reasoning behind every action, the stories of scriptures and its connection to our lives, they will be interested in spirituality.
Children are always curious to learn and know new things. But the understanding develops when they perceive a narrative of not questing, not asking questions on gods and goddesses , the fear is created in their minds. They get detached from spirituality thinking it is a subject that is overly guarded, something to be running away from.
The best time to introduce spirituality to a person is childhood. Because their mind is like a clear slate. Potters give shape to the mud when it’s wet. The children are just like the wet mud whom you can give any shape easily. As it is mentioned the children are curious, free spirited and not reluctant to ask questions. It is very easy to teach them new things. Whatever the teaching or learning process would be, mentally, physically, spiritually the children are flexible, open to changes and exposures. Later times it becomes hard because reshaping a shaped thing is to break it first.
The environment for praying and maintaining a disciple routine at home makes the child understand about the necessity of doing certain things in a certain manner such as after coming back from office, school or college it is necessary to clean up your body, meet the God and then meet your family. By following this simple ritual one feels calm from all the negativity that is faced outside and gets along with the family with positive energy.
If your children observe such kinds of discipline in the parents they will certainly feel the need to follow it because children tend to follow what they see you doing rather than what you preach.
-OdishaAge
