Marriage is a partnership for a lifetime, sharing life with someone in every situation, circumstance and step. Another aspect of this is creating a new family or support system emotionally before your old family, parents and siblings move out of your life. It is a very cyclical process and can be called the law of nature. Marriage requires a lot of mutual effort to maintain the relationship. The maturity level, growth, responsibilities, and understanding are the core qualities that take a relationship forward instead of only love.
The life of a woman tales a drastic ritn after her marriage. She moves out of her house to a completely new world, a new environment, people, rules and regulations. In the case of love marriages, the girl knows only one person in that house and in an arranged marriage, she may or may not know that person at all. Moreover, if the girl is ambitious and wants to achieve something in life it becomes all the more difficult to find such an environment or family where the girl will get as much freedom to achieve her ambitions.
The concept of equality will come in a marriage when both man and woman will live separately after marriage from their respective families not just the woman. The husband and wife will take a separate house and live where it will be their equal responsibility to look after each of their parents. She should look after her parents and the man has to take care of his. At the same time, both will be there for each other’s parents as well. In this concept of living, with many disputes, family issues and girls being someone else property, the problem of inequality will be resolved.
The most important part of choosing your life partner is to understand whether the person is suitable for being a good parent, or a responsible parent because when someone is in life the person might overlook the factors which can eventually be harmful to the relationship but in the case of children the future generation no one can take decisions with a half heart and mind. Most parents advise their children to have patience in a relationship. But in some cases, it is necessary to voice out your problems and views unless it will aggravate and the small issue will take an ugly turn.
Marriage should be at a time when there is a right partner. When a person goes back home there has to be peace, happiness and joy instead of only fights and unrest. Every person fights his own battle outside the house if you come and fight another battle at home as well, there is no point in pulling such a relationship. Independent women are taken as snubs in the family as well as in society. There is this mindset that the woman who is earning will always be judged for her work. It is not that women in every situation are right and treated badly. Many such instances are there where the women are wrong, and take undue advantage of their work, gender and position.
The mindset of male preference never changes, because when a girl is always considered as someone else property and one day she has to leave the house and go to her in-laws, it becomes natural for any parents to desire a son as everybody needs support in their old days. The mindset of sending away the daughter and her responsibility is her in-laws should be changed. The women should be considered as much a human being as a man. The expectations of protecting the honor of the family, the society, she must not be burdened with her life.
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